You can ask “how do you feel about…?” This form of question is a typical question to ask about one’s opinion. By asking this kind of question, you can get to know their personalities and standpoint on certain matters. It can be any content both positive or negative. On the other hand, you can also decide whether you will be perfect match for each other, because if you think differently on many matters, you are going to have a lot to argue in the future. For example, you can ask how do you feel about the trump election? If you are a leftie, you might not want to hookup with a Trump fan, right? Or if you like to eat meat, you might not want to be with a vegetarian. Of course, I’m not saying you should be with people with exactly same opinion on everything. It’s just a choice. For the sake of the development of your relationship, you might want to make sure you are on the same page on some serious matters, but if you are okay with being different, that is completely okay. After all, there are no same two leaves in the world.
You can ask are you okay with it? If you want your conversation to go deeper, when someone tells you what they are doing or what position they are in their life, you can simply ask are you satisfy with it? This is not a serious matter and you are not implying anything, but their answer can tell you a lot about who they are. They will either take this opportunity to talk more about themselves or not. They might take a defensive position and you will know that is a dangerous signal. As long as you don’t take a critical opinion when asking this question, they don’t have any reason to feel being offended. You have the right to know if you are going out with a person who is more passive than yourselves.
Ask if you want to meet again. I’m not suggesting you to ask right after you sit down with each other. That would be too strange. Sometimes, when the first down dating goes very well, you will find it is a really tricky matter to ask this question. When you like someone, you can become very sensitive and fragile, because everything you say is equal to I like you. In general, Getting things arranged during the first date is a lot better than texting afterwards. Otherwise, you might let yourself ghost anytime. If you don’t ask, you will never know. If you are that kind of person who don’t want to be left out and wondering if they would call or not, you might ask it directly.
